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Topic: ever get jealous?
xaltd
Posts: 39
Location: Toowoomba, Queensland
anyone for a deep and meaningfull ? haha

Anyways, just wondering if anyone has actually been involved in a long distance relationship over the internet ?

At the moment im "dating" an American woman, yeah i hear the lol's and rofl's now, even a couple of keke's...

But wait - it gets funnier ;)

We met playing WoW and that was back in feb, and since then we have really clicked,like a house on fire.. hopefully neither of us will get burnt..

She is moving here to study nursing, and shes coming early to visit me in October.

I can happily say im in love with this woman, yes for those critics - i do know what love is, i've been married and i have a wonderfull kid, yet... for some reason.. i find myself being jealous and my head goes places it shouldnt for example cheating etc.

Not me cheating, wondering if she would. Would you consider it cheating??? Its difficult for me to get my head around the whole situation sometimes lol.

She has her flight number and we web cam every day - and the phone calls.. well i have bills to proove that we love to just talk... not that you can do much more when 1. Im in ausralia and 2. she lives in the States ( at the moment ).

Soooo - what causes someone to get jealous over most likely .. nothing .. and also - how the f*** do you stop ur stupid mind from thinking those things?

My last relationship ended badly with my ex cheating on me 3 times and then leaving me for a weasly drug dealer. Got ego crush? sure did !

Thats the only reason i can come up with to why i would be thinking this - or is it the lack of physical contact and the unusually extended distance between us.

Ideas? I want this on to work =D

Oh yeah - i confronted the drug f***ed hippy and made him cry with out laying a hand on him, and everyone now knows what a whore she is ;) (the ex)

discuss !
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маvєяık
Posts: 3230
Location: Brisbane, Queensland
yeah the distance would be a major thing man.. my missus, i get really worried about stuff sometimes when i don't see her for a few days, because i think dammit she doesn't like me or something, i mean it could also be because you think she deserves better than you, like if you're insecure about your looks or something, which i sometimes get a bit worried about too.. but then i just tell myself no she likes me and she wouldn't want anyone else, and if she did do something, then it's her loss.. seems to make me feel better..

don't worry about what c*******s say man, it's your life, if you're in love good on you, wish you all the best. :)
xaltd
Posts: 40
Location: Toowoomba, Queensland
<3 u mav


=)
nF
Posts: 10964
Location: Wynnum, Queensland
i'm jealous of maverik

i wanted first post
got bean
Posts: 2248
Location: Brisbane, Queensland
xjimmyx detects emo thread
маvєяık
Posts: 3231
Location: Brisbane, Queensland
haha man was i lurking or what, minute after you posted.. eeep..
rogue_squirrel
Posts: 256
Location: Brisbane, Queensland
Say no, to emo.
xaltd
Posts: 41
Location: Toowoomba, Queensland
Its all good - i served 6 years i the army, and i used to worry then but yeah not as much as now. Call me a little bitch if u must but its getting to me lol

I am 99% certaini have no reason to worry what so ever, or if i have a "right" to worry so far as relationships go - so i guess im chasing more opinions from those, if any, that have been involved in long distance relationships before
got bean
Posts: 2249
Location: Brisbane, Queensland
xalted im sure you have nothing to worry about :)
SCOGGEX
Posts: 32
Location: Brisbane, Queensland

lol you 'clicked' in WoW. I see the funny.

honestly it sounds really cheesy dude but hey Love is teh pwnerer of all so good luck with it.

The jealousy thing over distance will only be fixed by

a) forgetting the whole thing
or
b) getting together.

just keep busy till you hook up. I was in a similar situation in my younger days NSW/QLD thing so I speak from exp. If I wasnt working I would have went nuts. Sorry to say it didnt work out in the long run. Distance really kills.

You should really watch pure pwnage 6 as well if you havent. There is an excellent track on there you can play at the wedding. ;)
sLiNky
Posts: 338
Location: Brisbane, Queensland
Pics or lieing.


Don't do long distance relationships. Never ffing work for me and my friends.
eK
Posts: 9133
Location: Brisbane, Queensland
How do you sex her up?
Chakas
Posts: 486
Location: Brisbane, Queensland
I'd love to help but my head exploded somewhere between "relationship over the internet" and "We met playing WoW".

Deepest apologies.
маvєяık
Posts: 3232
Location: Brisbane, Queensland
oh i forgot to mention my g/f lives half an hour a way, which doesn't seem too bad, but when she doesn't drive, sometimes we only see each other once a week, and hardly talk on the phone, hence the worrying.
Idol
Posts: 221
Location: Brisbane, Queensland
Hmm I just started dating a girl and I really like her and I get jealous about stuff I dream up too. Like any day I don't see her I am just jealous of the people she is spending time with, even though I don't know who they are. etc..

Think you're a cock for making your ex's bf cry tho, whaddya do? expose your hairy ass to him?
xaltd
Posts: 42
Location: Toowoomba, Queensland
lmfao

Yeah i know the internet and meeting on wow

To break it down -- we met on wow, and we started sending emails, then it went to phone calls to web cam. Shes a glamor ;)

If i attached a pic of her to these forums she would greet me with a swift kick to the nuts at the air port =) LoL
xaltd
Posts: 43
Location: Toowoomba, Queensland
Idol - hes one of those a******s that was saying absolute lies about me behind my back to her for about 2 months and telling her she should be with him etc, so he deserves everything he gets.

No i just went from 1 club to another to find him, after him and his mates called me out for being a chicken s*** cause i didnt do anything about it, and they kept running - i eventually caught up with them outside the irish club and his mates had bailed on him, and as much as i wanted to smash his face through a shop window - i couldnt even hit him. He looked scared enough as it was, so i got my sweet revenge by the look on his face. In my opinion he can have her now lol. Guess i was just beating myself up over a silly whore ;)
Fuknukle
Posts: 3512
Location: Brisbane, Queensland
but she doesnt know about these forums...
xaltd
Posts: 44
Location: Toowoomba, Queensland
yeah she does lol - i linked her to them for the spoot and joke threads ^_0
WhiteWolf
Posts: 1763
Location: Brisbane, Queensland
depends on what you call a long distance 0relationship? 20min drive and only being able to see her on weekends is my long distance. i use to worry that my girl would get bored with me or start to like someone else or perhaps cheat on me. but im kinda over that now, i know her well enough to be confident that she wouldn't do that to me (of course you can never be 100% sure). i would say its because your insecure.
SCOGGEX
Posts: 35
Location: Brisbane, Queensland
pretty hard to smash someoens face through that strong glass anyway.

One time I actually climbed through an ex grlfriends window early one morning when I saw the new bfs car parked there. They both woke up and he pulled the blanket over his head. So funny. She told me to get out and slapped me and when I was leaving I grabbed her and pashed her she luved it. After that she let me root her every now and then.


BWHAHAHAHAHAHAHA

SCOGGEX THE CONQUEROR
Kat
Posts: 5663
Location:
I am a very jealous person. But I am no where near as bad as I used to be.

I to was cheated on and even though your head knows it isn't happening (or at least wants to believe they aren't and trust them 100%), sometimes you can't turn the auto pilot off.

It takes time and patience.
xaltd
Posts: 47
Location: Toowoomba, Queensland
cursed baggage.
xaltd
Posts: 48
Location: Toowoomba, Queensland
omg Scoggex did you wear a cape !! haha

thats super hero material lol !!


and ooo a females point of view, i think i need to find a new hobby to past the time, 80 odd days but who's counting!
HERMITech
Posts: 2657
Location: Brisbane, Queensland
Dude, your asking for advice on relationships in place thats mostly

A: Kids
B: Gamers
C: male body builders & a pre op tranny...

Good luck
whoop
Posts: 8857
Location: Brisbane, Queensland
I have no advice on jealousy as I trust no one and expect every woman to cheat eventually but as for...
well i have bills to proove that we love to just talk... not that you can do much more when 1. Im in ausralia and 2. she lives in the States ( at the moment ).

ever hear of net meeting? hell I think msn even has a voice thing I know ICQ has a plugin. Failing that just install roger wilco or ventrillo :)
Gregory.Cx
Posts: 1824
Location: Brisbane, Queensland

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d[o_0]b
Posts: 392
Location: Brisbane, Queensland
we web cam every day



mate i would have trouble understanding a IRC/MSN type 'love relationship', but if you guys are web camming every day there's a good possibility there's something there.


hope it goes well for you mate
Suhaib
Posts: 3508
Location: Brisbane, Queensland
through wow? :S


i couldn't never make a 'gf' over the net... seroiusly..

she could be so different in real life.

good luck anyways.

post pics
got bean
Posts: 2250
Location: Brisbane, Queensland
are u in the same guild?
Kat
Posts: 5664
Location:
I had a boyfrriend in Ohio when I was 16.. .ahh the memories
маvєяık
Posts: 3233
Location: Brisbane, Queensland
whitewolf i have the same problem, think they'll get sick of me or find someone better, god knows i've been in a relationship where i've been waiting for something better to come along, so i think the same will happen in return.

also, hermi, bodybuilders get women, fishf***ers don't.
xaltd
Posts: 51
Location: Toowoomba, Queensland
haha - omg funny replies, i literelly lol'd

Yeah i eventually joined her guild *under the thumb already...*

Neither of us play WoW much now, we're allways webcam'n

Unforunately she's recently moved house and for some reason her pc wont allow her mic to work, we used to chat on team speak ( guild server lol )

We got it all working again, so its all good now.

I'll wait until i get her permission to post a pic ^_0
Saint
Posts: 1621
Location: Brisbane, Queensland
In my opinion, the one thing that is the most important with a long-distance relationship is trust. You both have to trust each other alot. I'll admit I'm in the same situation as you - I met a girl in America online and we both clicked really well, was over in America for E3 in May so have already visited her and she will be here visiting this weekend for a few weeks.

If you're both into each other the same amount, then all you have to do is look at yourself and tell yourself that you're into her so much that you wouldn't cheat on her or wouldn't even consider it, so if she's into you the same amount then she wouldn't do it or even consider it either.

I think it's natural to think the jealous/cheating thoughts whether it be a little or alot, and I think it's due to not being able to actually be with the person. As I said it pretty much comes down to trust, and putting your trust in someone who you have never met in the flesh is infinitely more harder than someone who you have met and know what the person is like. Until then, like I said above you just have to trust them, and keeping in constant communication with them will definitely help you do that.

Being in a long distance relationship is definitely harder and this is the reason why alot of them fail. As long as you're both willing to stick with it and see each other IRL from time to time (I believe this is important) then it should work out fine. Just don't be stuck in a long distance relationship for years as I think it would do more harm than good.
Tiny
Posts: 69
Location: Brisbane, Queensland
Try finding a woman outside the internet, that way the rapists wont find you.
xaltd
Posts: 53
Location: Toowoomba, Queensland
Thanks Saint - exactly what i was looking for, also i dont remember what that post was that you nuked, i didnt take offence to any of the replies thus far.

Tiny - speaking from experience :P ?

But yeah i know what you mean, I've recieved plenty of pics and when we web cammed - it was her :P so im all happy and i wouldnt say no to her having her way with me. So it wouldnt be rape.
маvєяık
Posts: 3234
Location: Brisbane, Queensland
it works both ways though, absence makes the heart grow fonder.. i've been out with girls that i've seen every day or two and just really gotten sick of them after a month.. now when i see my g/f if i see her once a week i am so happy when i see her, or twice a week is even good, but we both have other things to do, so it doesn't seem as if we dont WANT to spend all the time with each other.
WhiteWolf
Posts: 1765
Location: Brisbane, Queensland
bodybuilders get women, fishf***ers don't.
HA, proved you wrong there... i mean... f***. >:(
TicMan
Posts: 274
Location: Brisbane, Queensland
yeah she does lol - i linked her to them for the spoot and joke threads ^_0


Perhaps asking for advice on a forum where your gf frequents isn't the best idea in the world. If anything it will probably make her a little shat off that you are jealous because you (appear to be on these forums) don't trust her and think she is going to cheat.

Moving along though, the only cure for jealously is trusting each other completly which is hard since you don't have that physical contact aspect. These jealous feelings will stay with you until you do move onto the same continent/state/city and see each other a lot more on a physical level.

Also, with the whole internet/WoW thing.. who cares. This is a new age for meeting chicks and it can happen anywhere. Personally I'd rather meet someone thats participating in the same activities that I enjoy (masturbating to porn, playing WoW, whoring forums) over picking up a random in a pub where you can't even say hello without straining your vocal chords. Provided you were both horde and met while killing an alliance NE rogue, it's all good. If you both sit there going /flirt all day though, that's a deeper problem than jealously.
Imperial
Posts: 273
Location: Brisbane, Queensland
I'm with a girl atm, been just over 2 1/2 years together? and i trust her with everything i have that she wouldnt actualy "cheat" on me, but it doesnt stop my head from making up the most stupid'st scenarios i have about 6 or so hours a day at work to talk to no one but myself and make this s*** up. I supose it doesnt help when i've never met any of her guy friends except when one of them took her to the formal (we're 1 year apart) i've just dug myself into a depression hole and cant seem to find a quick way out i know i will but at the moment im turnin my life into a living hell. The way i fixed it last time was to turn cold and unemotinoal and boy that didnt help my relationship with her. So i know how you feel you are your worst enemy most of the time. I sometimes think her idea of "havin some harmless fun" is diff to mine but i cant stop her from havin a social life cus that is just wrong, also prolly 90% of her friends are males, it f***s me over. I cant help, but i can give sympathy >:
Thundercracker
Posts: 985
Location: Brisbane, Queensland
Did you play alliance or horde? I want to know where all the womens are at.
möoby
Posts: 2842
Location: UK
i was chatting to a texan girl about 5years ago, i went over to see her. meh - all went to s***.
маvєяık
Posts: 3235
Location: Brisbane, Queensland
if we're all telling internet dating stories, i spoke to a girl for 2 months then went to perth to see her, everything went awesome and we were into each other, until we realised i had to go back to brisbane for more cancer treatment, and we just started arguing i guess so we wouldn't have feelings for each other, i still have a crush on her to this day even if it is not much and i will probably never see her again
gimpy
Posts: 159
Location: Brisbane, Queensland
You could always develop a fetish for girls cheating on you and abusing you, that's what I did.

I don't get jealous anymore, I just say OH YES BABY, DO IT, DO IT YOU BAAAD GIRRRL!! YOU NASTY GIRL! YOU'RE SO TOUGH! NO WAIT, DON'T HURT ME, PLEASE DON'T HURT ME, OK, DO IT, JUST ONCE, BUT IF YOU DO... OMG, I WILL NEVER TALK TO YOU AGAIN. PLEASE. DON'T HANG UP.
xaltd
Posts: 54
Location: Toowoomba, Queensland
I've been trying to respond - but it keeps .. not posting my posts... weird.

Anyways i appologise if there is bout 6 posts in row of mine that come through late due to lag etc.

Just logged out and back in - hopefully that'll fix it.

Mav - sorry to hear about your cancer if you still have it, im realy sry to hear that.

You should try catching up with your lady friend in WA - on a friendship term ofcourse, as u have a lady already, especially if you still have feelings for her?
Booyah
Posts: 4048
Location: Brisbane, Queensland
I met this chick on cs. We always t spawn camped and kept spraying images of each other on the walls and getting jiggy with each other with our knives out. She turned out to be a jew so i team flashed her and hacked her and bunny hopped away lawl.

last edited by Booyah at 19:00:34 27/Jul/05
gimpy
Posts: 160
Location: Brisbane, Queensland
Jewish chicks are extremely hot.
Booyah
Posts: 4049
Location: Brisbane, Queensland

Yeah i know your sister had great potential.
gimpy
Posts: 161
Location: Brisbane, Queensland
You know what they say... 2's company, 3's a whole lot of fun.
Booyah
Posts: 4050
Location: Brisbane, Queensland
Now i'm jealous =(
xaltd
Posts: 55
Location: Toowoomba, Queensland
ahahah me 2 =(
Obes
Posts: 3308
Location: Brisbane, Queensland
Doesn't matter how or where you find em ... gl to you

But I'd lose the whole jealous clingy thing.
If you love something/one set it free, if it returns they love you, if they don't then they aren't the one for you anyways.

But given she is coming all the way over here to start a life etc etc ... I'd say you got nothing to worry about.
HERMITech
Posts: 2658
Location: Brisbane, Queensland

also, hermi, bodybuilders get women, fishf***ers don't.


There you go, fixed =)

ps, I boned a chick from Sth Africa I met over the net after meeting her on irc years ago, Another who was Latino. Sth African chick One of the most amazing chicks I have ever met (an she was an absolute babe as well, actually, so was the Latino). Specially loved the way they spend all the cash to come over an meet me =)

If you have seen each other online, an aren't phyically ill and can chatter away about all sorts of s***, then enjoy it for what it is.

Don't project your insecurities onto someone who could be a completely different person to any you have previously met an all will be well

Now, where did I stash my rohypnol??
маvєяık
Posts: 3236
Location: Brisbane, Queensland
yeah man everything is good now, cheers.. and i still talk to her on msn, but we have different lives now.. i would speak to her for a good 7 hours on the net, then get on the phone for another 4-5.. just hard to get over the last one you were so keen on.. my longest relationship took me ages to get over her until i met the perth girl, so now she's the one i have to get over, but i mean i dont think about her constantly.. just enjoyed her company and whatnot
gimpy
Posts: 162
Location: Brisbane, Queensland
маvєяık, come to the Regatta with me and I'll get you someone new to forget about the old ones. That's the best method. When I'm down about things not working out with a girl, I just drink myself stupid (hahaha, yeah for something new) and crack onto every girl I can find with big boobs.

Isn't tonight young student girl night?!? I'm a bad man.
sleepy
Posts: 264
Location: Brisbane, Queensland
jealousy leads to frustration.
frustration leads to anger
anger leads to the loneliness
loneliness leads to suffering.

i think jealousy is something you can only over come with trust. if you trust the girl there is nothing to worry about. i mean REALLY trust her. i think a lot of girls truly believe they wouldnt do anything deceiving while in a relationship but i have seen it change rapidly. especially under the drink. but then again it comes to defining what cheating is.

also you can only make the situation worse by being jealous and trying to counteract the opportunities the signif other to "cheat" by being overbearing, forceful, paranoid. etc etc. you will lose her or become so worried to a point where you will create situations in your head and start believing them

i dont think i am a jealous person (anymore) it needs to be clear what the ground rules are eg. seeing no-one else intimately. or whatever they might be.
then once these are understood believe in her and trust her that she wont break this understanding. it isnt hard to overcome jealousy but it takes a change of thinking, something that may take a while but do yourself a favour and get over it. its a much better way to be.

well thats my 2 cents
GumbyNoTalent
Posts: 6145
Location: Brisbane, Queensland
1. Your are good enough, unless you have lied to her then she obviously likes you for you and that counts for alot.
2. Jealousy is just a waste of energy, unless she lives in a trailer park and watches Jerry Springer she's probably a normal caring individual, most people will not go out of there way to hurt others.
3. Long distant relationships are very hard, net relationships even harder, as long as both parties have been completely honest then its no different to meeting any where else.
4. October is noth that far away, I think she will be as excited as you are, and if you wouldn't do anything to jepodize *spelling* this opportunity why would she? Doubtful, very doubtful, she would have to be one very cold fish, and I doubt she would have lasted this long if she was.

I'm no expert on women, this is why I'm not married, but I can tell you as long as you romancing her I doubt she need to look else where.
Joanna
Posts: 639
Location: Brisbane, Queensland
I'm a paranoid little soul.
And with a certain select few people i always suspect the worst =\ especially when there has been little contact in days.
But then those people have been the ones who have f***ed me over before, and i have great reason to be paranoid.
People that havent done a thing like that, i can go for weeks with out seeing them and not suspect a thing (not talking about relationships here)
gimpy
Posts: 171
Location: Brisbane, Queensland
You meet enough people in your life who do the wrong thing and it becomes the norm.

Sorry, leaving now :)
maxe
Posts: 10928
Location: Brisbane, Queensland
Jealousy is for the weak. So is anger. Fear is natural (part of the reason you're still alive), but cant become a dominating force.



Master your emotions and stop being such pussys.
gimpy
Posts: 172
Location: Brisbane, Queensland
That's horses***. Sorry.
plok
Posts: 411
Location: Brisbane, Queensland
The reason you get jealous is because you would cheat on her if the opportunity came up and you assume she is as weak as you.

Sorry but it's true.

Next.
dynamite
Posts: 1016
Location: Brisbane, Queensland
^^ haha your a dumbs***. The opportunity has most probably come up for everyone... doesn't mean they cheated. Im betting they still get jealous though.

last edited by dynamite at 22:48:58 27/Jul/05
Midda
Posts: 734
Location: Gold Coast, Queensland
I've recently hit it off with this girl from England. I've never fancied someone over the net before. We both really like each other, she's really nice, really pretty (and I know it's really a girl, because I've called her), but it's frustrating, because it can never really go anywhere. All I can do is just sit back and hope that she doesn't get blown up :(
gimpy
Posts: 173
Location: Brisbane, Queensland
f***ING FANTASTIC.
JigZie
Posts: 2197
Location: Brisbane, Queensland
just hacks into her mainfraim like so -:
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100100100010101001001000101011001110010010101001001001
010100101001000100001010100100010000101010100101000100
101010001010010010001111001010101010010101000100111010
101101101010001111010100010010100100100100101001001010
010101000101001010010001001001000010010010010001001100
001010010001000100100010010010100101001000100101001001

Then trace her ip and you have nothing to worry about if you really are still worried then just fire up a worm to invade her.
Ps i like to f*** everything that hits on me INCLUDING my gf's mother, sister and cousin, should i be worried that she will do the same to me ?

last edited by JigZie at 02:23:29 28/Jul/05
WhiteWolf
Posts: 1767
Location: Brisbane, Queensland
You meet enough people in your life who do the wrong thing and it becomes the norm.


That's horses***. Sorry.
xaltd
Posts: 58
Location: Toowoomba, Queensland
Plok - ur so far off track u've gone walkabout
Kat
Posts: 5696
Location:
The reason you get jealous is because you would cheat on her if the opportunity came up and you assume she is as weak as you.


Utter bulls***.

You get jealous because you are scared of getting hurt. When you know what that hurt is like you usually get a s*** load more scared than other people.

I think you are confusing those who ACCUSE people of cheating, do it because they either are or would do it themselves.

spidz
Posts: 8721
Location: Brisbane, Queensland
i agree with plok
darius
Posts: 86
Location: Gold Coast, Queensland
so lke did you guys go to moonglade to the clothese shop where you can buy a wedding tuxedo and wedding dress ? quite pricey but whatever
maxe
Posts: 10938
Location: Brisbane, Queensland
That's horses***. Sorry.
Persay
Posts: 2641
Location: Brisbane, Queensland
I can happily say im in love with this woman, yes for those critics - i do know what love is, i've been married and i have a wonderfull kid,
i don't understand how this makes you know what love is
Superform
Posts: 3852
Location: Cairns, Queensland
if ur jealous then it means u dont fully trust her... for whatever reason...

if you dont fully trust her.. SEND HER ASS TO DA CURB


a healthy relationship means you fully trust that even if ur missus is hanging around other blokes all day whatever.. u know she only wants to be with you

i have had girlfriend i have trusted 110% and we would be out clubin and if i left her for a min and some crackhead started trying to chat her up.. i knew she didnt give a f*** about them.. and i never got the smallest hint of jealousy...

other girls i have gone out with that hasnt been there.. and i dont wanna be in relationships like that.. so i treat it as it is... a friendly f*** friend and leave it at that...

also i make sure i'm clear with girls in the begining... i tell them if they fell like f***ing other guys.. thats ok.. just tell me so i can nail there cat to the front door on my way out

lol
xaltd
Posts: 59
Location: Toowoomba, Queensland
Well persay, there is love for a woman and there is love for your own child - both are quite different, but im aware of what love is =)

If you dont understand that comment dont bother responding.
Kat
Posts: 5701
Location:
Superform, if only it was that simple.

Being jealous doesn't mean you should break up and it doesn't always mean that you don't trust them....conciously
fpot
Posts: 11862
Location: Gold Coast, Queensland
plok is right and it is funny watching people say he is wrong because they are obviously in denial.

last edited by fpot at 21:31:24 28/Jul/05
Persay
Posts: 2644
Location: Brisbane, Queensland
i think it's not necessarily that they would cheat if they had the chance, but hte thought went through their mind and they seriously considered it
Kat
Posts: 5703
Location:
I still find it highly amusing that the majority of people giving advice are under 25 and single or 'f***ing' someone

Yeah great one!

You haven't dealt with any real relationship issues in your life and yet you think you know the human brain...

Sorry but being young, dumb and full of cum, doesn't mean the entire human race is
fpot
Posts: 11863
Location: Gold Coast, Queensland
Love is bulls***. It is a chemical reaction in the brain that is necessary for the procreation of our species. There is nothing 'magical' or special about it - it is simply about necessity.

What I find much more special than love are purely platonic relationships. The bond between two people who have been best mates for years, or a platonic male-female relationship has no strings attached, no alterior motives behind it. It is just pure trust between friends that isn't created by some primal instinct that has been Hallmarked out of proportion. Your chemical reaction that you call love will have you cheating if it is a strong enough one.
spidz
Posts: 8725
Location: Brisbane, Queensland
i disagree that love is bulls***, but i still agree with what plok said.

ps: aren't you under 25 and single kat?
Kat
Posts: 5704
Location:
ps: aren't you under 25 and single kat?


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Raven
Posts: 1053
Location: Melbourne, Victoria
and since then we have really clicked,like a house on fire.. hopefully neither of us will get burnt..


You do realise that when it's all over, a house on fire takes your house, your posessions, your money, and then just pisses off?

i couldn't never make a 'gf' over the net... seroiusly..

I met two of mine on IRC, though after the second I promised never again. And for those that are wondering or thinking they're on IRC for a reason, the first was an absolute hotie.
maxe
Posts: 10944
Location: Brisbane, Queensland
Love is bulls***. It is a chemical reaction in the brain that is necessary for the procreation of our species.


yup.

There was a recent study by a lab here in australia called "The bio-physical chemistry of love" or something. Exact details were complicated and hard to remember, but the cliffnotes was something like:

- You have two chemicals, O's and A's (they have more complicated names)
- One of them drives sexual urge, and I think the other drives physical attachment
- In females, I think the A's go psycho during sexual encounters, increasing feelings of attachment
- In males, they just want a beer

Id link you, but I dont know if there was a link or not. Ironically enough, my girlfriend was telling me about it.
Kat
Posts: 5712
Location:
hahaha, I think you are all confusing Love and Lust/Desire

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stinky
Posts: 898
Location: Brisbane, Queensland
hahaha, I think you are all confusing Love and Lust/Desire


They're mostly the same thing. Love is the want for attachment to the item of Lust/Desire.
Kat
Posts: 5722
Location:

They're mostly the same thing. Love is the want for attachment to the item of Lust/Desire.


Hey, just because you 'love' your mum, doesn't mean the rest of us look at our family members like that!
xaltd
Posts: 60
Location: Toowoomba, Queensland
scientology in da house... werd.

anyways..

What do you call the bond between father and son?

Love and Lust are 2 seperate things, though USUALLY to have love in a male/female relationship that is intimate, there is lust involved also.

Just cause a report or a scientist says something doesnt make it correct =)

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xaltd
Posts: 61
Location: Toowoomba, Queensland
getting back on track a bit - i've been given permission to upload a photo, now who wants to host it for me >< lol
kicci
Posts: 2
Location: USA
Well I'm an American girl that met an Australian guy over a video game. (And yeah I know it sort of sounds stupid when I tell my friends/family that aren't gamers too. Kinda hard for some people to understand. Esp since we're both attractive, intelligent people - not the *stereotyped* sorts of net-relationships.)

In some ways I feel we got to know each other better because of it though. We vaguely knew each other and talked strict gaming stuff for a couple years before we *really* started talking. And then we became great friends for about...ten months, talking nearly non-stop before we met irl. But I trust him implicitly and don't think he'd ever do any of the bad things my ex ever did.

But it's been great, and I'm quite happy. It really is hard though. Trust and frequent, long communication are the most important things to keep in mind for it to work. I think for long-distance relationships that trust is even more important than in one where you see each other every day.

You need to figure out why you're paranoid. Is it really just because of your ex? Or do you get some sort of "vibe" that she's not honest? Because as much as you talk, if you don't get that feeling that she's not an honest person or is hiding something important, then you should have nothing to worry about. You should know her pretty well by this point. The upside to net relationships is that you generally do a lot more talking and get to know each other better/faster than "real life" ones.

But if she's moving there, then that will help a lot. And certainly cut down on the cost of airfare! ;) Will she be in the same city? Anyways, best of luck to you and I hope it works out!
xaltd
Posts: 62
Location: Toowoomba, Queensland
Thanks Kicci

Yah i totally believe its cause of my ex, and now that i've figured that out in my head i can keep the stupid thoughts out.. like posting emo threads on QGL lol
stinky
Posts: 903
Location: Brisbane, Queensland
I played WoW and all I got was this lousy girlfriend.
Khel
Posts: 10261
Location: Wynnum, Queensland
WTS 1x[Girlfriend] PST
AnaRoT
Posts: 8420
Location: Queensland

Ironically enough, my girlfriend was telling me about it.


Prolly not so ironic... read between the lines.
Obes
Posts: 3344
Location: Brisbane, Queensland
the *stereotyped* sorts of net-relationships.

*most* the net MMOG based relationships I have seen 1 or both of the partners are married to someone else.

Or are you suggesting people who play PC games are ugly ?

Khel
Posts: 10264
Location: Wynnum, Queensland
Are you suggesting they aren't?
Obes
Posts: 3345
Location: Brisbane, Queensland
Yeah ... point taken khel :(
kicci
Posts: 3
Location: USA
Haha Obes, not at all what I meant. ;) Just pointing out that there is a decent amount of people (my parents come to mind) that have this stereotype about people that browse forums, game, or spend lots of time/meet on the computer. They assume that people you meet on the net you can't have real relationships with, are ugly or geeky or dumb or anti-social, that they're going to be stalker rapist creeps that steal your credit card info, that it's just a huge waste of time, whatever... There's a few out there. Which we all know to be untrue. That's why I said it was a stereotype. ;p

But still, it even comes into play among forums and stuff to a lesser extent. "omg a computer chick is actually hot/smart/a real live woman!" Dunno how often I've heard something along those lines in reference to just about anyone with boobs that plays video games hehe. More times than I can count though. Of course, being a woman, I've probably been on the brunt end of remarks like that more than you, and so I'm a bit more sensitive to them and how often they occur, even within the gaming/net forum communities.
Khel
Posts: 10266
Location: Wynnum, Queensland
Girl gamers are old hat now, I'm more interested in meeting girl programmers. I have never ever worked with any female programmers in any of my jobs ever, I'm starting to think maybe they're a myth. No girls at all in the programming stream of my degree either. I need to find a hot female programmer that loves geeks, and then I can make witty programmer jokes like "You... you had me at printf()" and she'll laugh and think I'm awesome and we'll all live happily ever after.



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xaltd
Posts: 63
Location: Toowoomba, Queensland
haha that was gold khel and stinky !
kicci
Posts: 4
Location: USA
Yeah, just read an article about that the other day. Needing more girls on the development/programming side and stuff. Still, if girls are such old hat, how come I still get *told* every few months that I'm not really female? ;p
Thundercracker
Posts: 986
Location: Brisbane, Queensland
Girl programmers do not exist sorry Khel. Unfortunately we picked the wrong profession. Maybe we should be playing more WoW?
Superform
Posts: 3853
Location: Cairns, Queensland
POST THE PIC ITS FRIDAY I DEMAND SPOOT
Khel
Posts: 10267
Location: Wynnum, Queensland
Still, if girls are such old hat, how come I still get *told* every few months that I'm not really female? ;p

Well the concept of a girl gamer is old hat to me, I mean it just seems like a totally natural idea to me, why wouldn't girls play games? Games are awesome, and girls are awesome, so of course the two would come together at some point!

I'm sure though that the intertron is still full of plenty of pimply faced pre-pubescent CS players who sneak peeks on their sisters in the shower, and these are probably the ones who have trouble believing that girls (OMG LOL GIRL GERMS!) would frequent the same gaming forums and engage in the same past-times they do. I mean, girls are meant to play with dolls and do each other's makeup and gossip about boys aren't they? Girls dont play games, thats unpossible!
Girl programmers do not exist sorry Khel.

I refuse to believe that damnit! People used to say the earth was flat too you know!

Obes
Posts: 3350
Location: Brisbane, Queensland
The earth is flat, its reality thats bent.
spidz
Posts: 8729
Location: Brisbane, Queensland

heh, nice work khel
Midda
Posts: 740
Location: Gold Coast, Queensland
Girl programmers do not exist sorry Khel.

Wasn't there a female programmer in that StarSeige thing, Khel?
Khel
Posts: 10268
Location: Wynnum, Queensland
Yeah, but she didn't actually do any programming and got booted out of the project, so I dont know if you could really call her much of a programmer.
xaltd
Posts: 65
Location: Toowoomba, Queensland
evolution is a step by step process :D
jazzcat
Posts: 10
Location: Brisbane, Queensland
i'm a girl programmer :) yay me.
Khel
Posts: 10270
Location: Wynnum, Queensland
Pics or lying!

Seriously though, thats pretty cool. What sort of programming do you do?
Kat
Posts: 5746
Location:

haha nice try Khel, we all know you were being serious in the first line
Khel
Posts: 10271
Location: Wynnum, Queensland
Shhhh, you'll give the game away!
jazzcat
Posts: 12
Location: Brisbane, Queensland
Pics or lying!

Seriously though, thats pretty cool. What sort of programming do you do?

ummmm i do the programming that is, um on the computer.. i think.. i don't know, i'm just a girl :(

... wtf you require photographic evidence of myself coding?!

okay just in case that was a serious question: i own java, c, and c++, vb's okay but boring, no .net s*** cause i'm lazy, i did learn random other languages at uni but i forgot them. now i'm really liking the web dev stuff better, and at work i'm using asp all the time.

and there are a couple of ppl on this forum that know i'm a girl, so there.
Khel
Posts: 10272
Location: Wynnum, Queensland
Ok, I guess I dont need pics, I have it on good authority that you are indeed a girl. But you said "vb is ok", so I still have my doubts about you as a programmer!
Tung
Posts: 3079
Location: Brisbane, Queensland
but crusty dirty old mantra says that vb is good!
gimpy
Posts: 174
Location: Brisbane, Queensland
Let's face it, there is basically no hot chicks in highly technical IT roles.

I've never ever heard of chick doing high level sys admin stuff.

It's because guys are smarter and better at these things. Same with coding. Seen some hot chicks do some web development sorta stuff, but that's not really that technical and they still couldn't clean a virus off their computer. And the exceptions to this, are ugly.

Thanks
Khel
Posts: 10273
Location: Wynnum, Queensland
Crusty old mantra gets paid to be gay, I mean, write vb, so of course he'll say its good!
Hybr|d
Posts: 726
Location: Brisbane, Queensland
For the record xalted. To get a piccy hosted/shown on the forums do the following.

1 - Goto www.imageshack.us and upload the pic, get the url address.
2 - in your reply, i think you put in < img="yourwebsiteinhere" > but ive forgotten :(

Oh, and dont put spaces between the < and > like i did

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xaltd
Posts: 66
Location: Toowoomba, Queensland
http://img32.imageshack.us/img32/6360/nessi2ty.jpg

She is the one on the Right.

:D



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SCOGGEX
Posts: 47
Location: Brisbane, Queensland

yes please
Fish
Posts: 1582
Location: Brisbane, Queensland
Girl programmers do not exist sorry Khel.
I refuse to believe that damnit! People used to say the earth was flat too you know!
Khel, you just need to get out and pimp the godly profession of programming to the ladies.

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WhiteWolf
Posts: 1778
Location: Brisbane, Queensland
Girl programmers do not exist sorry Khel. Unfortunately we picked the wrong profession
we had a babe of a girl doing IT programming at tafe (we had 4 in the class, 1 looked like tralor trash, 1 was an indian chick that was easy on the eyes, 1 was an average girly, and 1 real honny of a girl, which was who i hung out with at lunch) i must have been the first person ever to flirt with a girl while codeing.
Khel
Posts: 10275
Location: Wynnum, Queensland
Wow, how do you hold all that angst inside without exploding?
sexy babe
Posts: 121
Location: Brisbane, Queensland
Well, so thats why half of you dont have a gf then caz ur a******s to them.
Astroboy
Posts: 2521
Location: Brisbane, Queensland
Nah, its because they are hideous freaks
Kat
Posts: 5762
Location:
Na, the constant is always the RE
xaltd
Posts: 67
Location: Toowoomba, Queensland
jesus h christ....


reality check required for some people here i think ....
Tollaz0r!
Posts: 6595
Location: Brisbane, Queensland
Hahaha, gimpy is stupid and possibly gay.


Let's face it, there is basically no hot chicks in highly technical IT roles.

I've never ever heard of chick doing high level sys admin stuff.


You only think that hot chicks arnt in highly technical IT roles and are stupid because

a) They are smart enough to instantly recognise you as nothing more then a dick, so they act dumb to make you go away, and it works, over and over again.

b) the amount of females doing IT roles compared to males are lower, most probably because it is a fkn boring set of jobs and that it is full of dicks and the people handing out those cushy jobs are also dicks, why would you want to work in that if you dont have to.

c) See a.

Then there are all those scientific advacements..


Tollaz0r!
Posts: 6597
Location: Brisbane, Queensland

Soooo - what causes someone to get jealous over most likely .. nothing .. and also - how the f*** do you stop ur stupid mind from thinking those things?

My last relationship ended badly with my ex cheating on me 3 times and then leaving me for a weasly drug dealer. Got ego crush? sure did !


Well the way your last relationship dosnt help with the whole being abandoned thing.

Being jelous can come from being scared of being alone, or even change.
Skitza
Posts: 6680
Location: Brisbane, Queensland
I've never ever heard of chick doing high level sys admin stuff.


You are a complete dumbs***. Back to your hole thanks.
gimpy
Posts: 183
Location: Brisbane, Queensland
Why does that make me dumb? Just telling the truth.
fpot
Posts: 11874
Location: Gold Coast, Queensland
ahaha, I think you are all confusing Love and Lust/Desire
Ironically you are.

Remember that love is just an overused word invented by humans to describe the feeling the chemical reaction gives them.
Tung
Posts: 3080
Location: Brisbane, Queensland
the words of a truly cynical and pessimistic man fpot :p
fpot
Posts: 11876
Location: Gold Coast, Queensland
I love you though tung.

Like really love, no chemical reaction about this feeling.
Tung
Posts: 3086
Location: Brisbane, Queensland
i love you too, but the platonic love a man may have for something that cannot make any sexual advances to the aforementioned man
maxe
Posts: 10970
Location: Brisbane, Queensland
hey guys whats going on in this thread?
Suhaib
Posts: 3536
Location: Brisbane, Queensland
i hear maxe can't drive... losing control n s***
xaltd
Posts: 70
Location: Toowoomba, Queensland
"Remember that love is just an overused word invented by humans to describe the feeling the chemical reaction gives them."

Or... chemical reaction is the term used to describe the emotion of love, used by those that need a reason for why some things just are.

No - im not saying its not true, i totally believe it, i just dont think you should down play that emotion so much fpot =)

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