Everything at the moment for me is about marriage and weddings.

So I figured why not ask how many QGL'ers are and for how long ? :)

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f*** marriage, and f*** raising kids too!!!!

I have a cat. Does that count?

Who on QGL is crazy?

Fixed.

The "weddings" where a 30-something couple and their kids (from previous relationships/out of wedlock) are all together at the altar seem really really trashy to me.

soz

yeh, for 18 years

Until yesterday i was married.
The divorce papers came through, my (now) ex-wife called me and wanted to wait until i got back from Holland to open them.

I got married in August.

It's f***en awesome.

IU have to agree.
The best feeling in my life was being married.
But a word of advice.... and trust me on this....
It is hard work, never take it for granted.

:(

been married for 2 and a half years.

Not much different to before really, just her name has changed.

Merlyn... wtf?!?!?!?

Engaged ... with no date set.

Aight.

props obes

Kat, yes i remember you met her when we went back to visit Aus.
I am afraid so, we are still friends but it just didn't work out... rather sad time i am afraid.
Infact while i am here working in Holland she is in our apartment moving stuff into her new one.

I say have kids when your life is stable and fufilled plus your finances are in check.

I know WAY too many people that are having kids (some as young as 20) or have kids that basically have ruined their lives. I have no idea why they do this, the ONLY explanation I can think of is that (in at least 50%) the women is trying to add some sort of meaning to her life when they 1. Have no career/eduation/skills, 2. Have no money or assets, 3. Have a partner that they aren't happy with.

Despite what has happened, i am still all for marriage.
I still see the possibility of being married agian (i even know who to)
but at least i hope to have learnt from my mistakes.

CHUB: Where did anyone ask for opinions on when to have kids? This thread was about marriage, not kids.

Merlyn: Wow, that sucks :(

married for 10 months. nothing else really to say.

Except that it feels like 10 years?

yeh, for 18 years

JIM, you've had your FWD for 18 years???

Old, crusty, married, 1.9 kids.

Sorry to hear Merlyn :(

It will take time to adjust, but you'll be fine, trust me

I don't watch Andrew Denton, but Seinfeld was on his show a few months back and he summarised it perfectly I think

It was along the lines of, I lived the single lifesytle and believed it was the best way to live, and now that I'm marriage, I believe both are the best or something.

Single and married lifesytles are different, you have different friends, do different things together (in general). Both are great, so just enjoy life and party on?

Seinfeld said that when he was single, he didn't like haing out with his married friends because he thoughts their lives were boring and depressing.

He then said that when he got married he didn't like hanging out with his single friends because he felt that their lives were dull and meaningless.

He then finished up by saying "and in both cases, I think I was pretty much spot on!"

Will be in May and can't wait.

Got married on in December ;) f*** kids though.

Getting married july 2009, just got engaged in december :)

you saw 27 dresses didnt you kat?

I always thought that the point of marriage was to have kids?

Otherwise why go to all the trouble and expense of mrriage if you arent going to have children?

Marriage will be become more and more redundant. Ppl wont be having children because of the horrific overpopulation crisis. Therefore there is no point in getting married.

^^ HAHAHAH that seriously made me lol.

I ain't married. I've met a few girls who I could have married... most I slept with... generally the ones I didn't sleep with are the ones I still think I could be married to.

I do like the idea of a public ceremony to "declare mutual love" and all that, but I'd only do something religious if it sincerely meant somethign to the girl. Otherwise, let's all get drunk, f***, and party.

yeah if you aren't going to have kids what is the point in getting married

4yrs in March. No rush to breed.

We still hang out with singles and other married couples, but I think our's is a rare sort of relationship where that still works cause we both have so many valuable friendships in both situations.

3 years in March

Marriage seems pointless and boring to me. Old people are no fun and most of them are married. I have 2 brothers and a sister who are married and they are f***ing boring. They enjoy s*** like going to bunnings to buy towel racks and new handles for pantry doors, f*** that s***. Marriage makes you old and I would rather have actual fun not make believe fun. Look at couples in cars when they drive how much fun do they look like they are having?

Not married, but I can't wait to be. I love the idea of being able to spend my life with someone I love. And also can't wait to go to Bunnings and buy towel racks together :P

^ Sounds like you'll end up marrying someone cos you like the idea, not the dude, and end up divorced 5 years and two kids / ruined life later.

BE WARNED

You got that idea from me saying I want to spend my life with someone I love? I already know who I want to spend the rest of my life with and have known this since the early days of dating him

I dont get why you think that if you marry someone and then get divorced that you have ruined your life?

Obviously a divorce is not what is top of the list of things to do once you are married, but if that's what happens then that's what happens.

If you do stay single and never have kids you'll probably be thinking you've 'ruined' your life when you're seventy years old and sitting alone on Christmas day without family or friends, no one calls you on your birthday and no one visists you when you're sick.

Your life is what you make out of it.

Nope. But live with my girl for 10.5 years.

If you do stay single and never have kids you'll probably be thinking you've 'ruined' your life when you're seventy years old and sitting alone on Christmas day without family or friends, no one calls you on your birthday and no one visists you when you're sick.

What if you plan to never make to old age? I smoke, drink, take things I shouldn't, drive really fast and generally have no regard for life. If peoples dreams are to reach 70+ sitting in a nursing home s***ting their pants, forgetting everything and complaining about how everything is scary while ungrateful kids surround them and see them as a burden you go for it. Christmas is nothing more then a day when the shops aren't open, birthdays are for people who like to see how high they can count and a good friend will come snuff you out when your sick.

while ungrateful kids surround them waiting for them to die

Infi that is much closer to the truth.

What if you plan to never make to old age? I smoke, drink, take things I shouldn't, drive really fast and generally have no regard for life. If peoples dreams are to reach 70+ sitting in a nursing home s***ting their pants, forgetting everything and complaining about how everything is scary while ungrateful kids surround them and see them as a burden you go for it. Christmas is nothing more then a day when the shops aren't open, birthdays are for people who like to see how high they can count and a good friend will come snuff you out when your sick.

FTW

I'm expecting to die of some massive injury well before I reach old age.

fark man, if you're in a nursing home by the time your 70, it's probly because you have been hittin the bottle hard! (wake up in the morning no cash no cards)

I still see the possibility of being married agian (i even know who to)

Did u cheat on your wife? I'm just wondering how you can know "who to"..

I smoke, drink, take things I shouldn't, drive really fast and generally have no regard for life.

Well you're probably in the best position to end up in a nursing home with someone wiping your arse.

My Mum just had a nasty heart attack, brought on by 40 years of smoking and drinking. Due to surgery complications she'll probably spend the rest of her days in a wheelchair. Party on.

Got engaged on NYE after being together for 10 years. No date set yet, maybe another 10 years

Wow timley thread, cause i'm getting married tomorrow night.

How old did everyone get married/do ppl want to get married?

Me = would like to get married mid to late 20s.

2 years here with 1.2 kids (12mth old & number two due in August). Love it, except for the whole "out come the kids, there goes the sex life" bit :/

oh man why did u have to tell me that :(

now that's a minus (cue ad lol)

Well you're probably in the best position to end up in a nursing home with someone wiping your arse.

They should feel privileged to have that honor. And knowing me I would fart while they are doing it just my own amusement.

Agent 99 - nope.

TT_Avenger congrats :D

Enjoy! And may I ask, did you help organise the wedding or did you leave it up to wifey? hehe I am left to organise it all simply because I want some order to it :p or at least that is his excuse

Got married april last year

fark surely it's gotta be late laaatte 20's.. possibly thiry.. when did you get married spook? your like a role model to all those young doofers out there.

do wives ever say "Cock me muthaf***er," like on The Heartbreak Kid?

IMO the only way to get married in this day and age when everyone expects everything about your wedding to be about them ( i.e. bossy family ) and the average wedding is $20k+ is to elope to vegas and get married by elvis with a dude in a bear outfit as the witness ( unless you can find a real bear! ). Then come home and chuck a massive party.

stinky, dude, the wedding doesn't cost much at all. It is the party/reception that costs the money

sif any woman would skip the reception.

engaged, will be married in 5 months

So I figured why not ask how many QGL'ers are and for how long ? :)

Will be next year :)

Got married on in December ;) f*** kids though.

Did you f*** kids before you got married too?

I always thought that the point of marriage was to have kids?

You don't need to bemarried to make babies. Marriage is about a partnership. Don't worry, one day when a girl shows you her vagina, it will start to dawn on you.

but I'd only do something religious if it sincerely meant somethign to the girl.

Ahh, Marriage is a civil contract.

IMO the only way to get married in this day and age when everyone expects everything about your wedding to be about them ( i.e. bossy family ) and the average wedding is $20k+ is to elope to vegas and get married by elvis with a dude in a bear outfit as the witness ( unless you can find a real bear! ). Then come home and chuck a massive party.

Of course, for your previous partner you wanted to dress up as an imperial officer from star wars, have the imperial march as the wedding march, and you where going to let me come along in a kilt so I could sing "IF YOU WANT MY BODY" on the stage afterwards.

You come up with the best ideas for weddings ever.

married last oct. have 1.2 kids as well. 1 is 19months old other is due in august as well. been together for 6years. travelled around the world together for 12months in each others pockets (best test of relationship ever). wedding cost a fair bit cause we paid for lots of stuff and did it on straddie. still only cost alittle over $10k. $20k+ is just for pompous asses that want to show off.

have loads of single friends, and also married ones. we still have single mates come over and spend the night, stay up late drinking and sometimes going out. we take it in turns to a degree. She works, i stay home and look after the little one, and in 2 months that will reverse.

I didnt really want to get married, would have been happy to stay engaged for the rest of our lives, but we did it cause she wanted to do it, and we wanted to have a family get together. It wasnt a christian wedding, but had some catholic parts to it, some pagan and some made up for our own likings.

Back in the olden days religious ppl were supposed to stay chaste until marriage... lol. Women wore a white dress to symbolize that they havent rooting around and are virgins.... rather pointless nowerdays unless you are Guy Sebastian's fiance.

There are alot of unwed couples in Australia who are just as faithful to their partners as those who do get married.

In the end its just a piece of paper.

Being single enables me to party like the rockstar that I am

DirtyApe know the score, bring on the wheelchairs and arse wiping!

Just a piece of paper? Wow what a romantic notion. Yea, they do say the average is $20k plus but unless you have a really big family then I don't see how you would *need* to spend anywhere near that much. But hey, it's a special day and if you have the money then go for it. I just want a nice simple wedding, something small and outdoors with just family and close friends. I like the idea of a wedding being about the two people involved and I don't really see the need to have a massive ceremony and invite everyone I know to come along

will have been together 9 years in october. Was going to get married in september in vanuatu, having another kid instead.

bring on the wheelchairs and arse wiping!

:D

I'm married to the game.

A wedding can cost as much or as little as you want. Based on 90 guests ours will cost around $6k

ZOMG, can't wait!

$6k for 90 guests? That's not too bad actually. Goodluck for the big day :)

I feel insecure in relationships so until I grow the f*** up I'll stick to my hand and getting laid every once in a while.

Morgan's married to the job! I'm his bitchy mother-in-law who think's he's not good enough for my daughter.

Urgh speaking of mother-in-laws (or future ones at least) mine's a real pain in the ass!

Lol That's why I'm at work on sat stinky :P

Love it though

We got married in Fiji June of last year. Just me and the wife, no family or friends. Then we came back and had a big party, kinda like a reception.

Was an awesome way to do it IMO, and we have no regrets. In some ways it would have been nice for friends to share the day with us, but in other ways it was really personal and not marred by other people's expectations, pressure etc.

Plus, the whole tropical island thing was pretty sweet.

^^ I agree, Definitely the way to go if you don't have kids

Did you tell people before you left for fiji or keep it a secret? I would love to be able to do this style, but I dont know if I can get it past the missus :/

Morgan's married to the job! I'm his bitchy mother-in-law who think's he's not good enough for my daughter.

I hate to think what that makes me :(

You don't need to bemarried to make babies. Marriage is about a partnership. Don't worry, one day when a girl shows you her vagina, it will start to dawn on you.

just like what happened with typo. except hopefully, in your case, she won't be a thai mail order bride who was previously a man.

Engaged ... with no date set.

Well bugger me! Top stuff Obes.

I've been married for 14 years and together for 18. Lots of ups and downs, but certainly an experience! Also, marraige shouldn't = kids, that's just stupid. It's got nothing to do with the kids, and everything to do with you and your partner.

i think i was 32 or something when we got married

had been with wifey for 10 years, so decided it was time

i organised 0% of the wedding, just told petal i wanted a "fun wedding, no sit down dinner, party atmosphere" and she made it happen

was an awesome day

Did you tell people before you left for fiji or keep it a secret? I would love to be able to do this style, but I dont know if I can get it past the missus :/

We we first decided to get married, we were going to keep it a secret. However we realised that it wouldn't be the right thing for us to do as far as our parents were concerned. My wife wanted me to ask her Dad for permission out of respect.

Man I was nervous as hell and kind of blurted it all out in one go. As it was I shouldn't have been worried and it's kinda funny now but at the time it was a big deal, cos I didn't know him that well etc. He was a total champ and I felt a tad foolish but meh! Yah live and learn.

Protip for those getting married in tropical resorts:
When having a shaky last bourbon at the bar while waiting for your bride to come floating down on the wedding boat, and you decide to snack on deep fried coconut to freshen up your breath for the wedding kiss, make sure you don't have a big bit of coconut stuck in your front teeth for the duration of the ceremony. It's damn near impossible to pick coconut outta your teeth while concentrating on vows and whatnot.

married at 24, first kid at 25 - hopefully have another one asap.

kaaasplat

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this forum used to be cool

if living with a woman for 6 months means they are legally entitled to half your s*** as a wife is then I guess I'll have 5 or so ex wives hunting me down for cash.


time to move again methinks...


meanwhile, Miss Koopz #1 owns all my shiz. and if she even angers Daddy she'll be sent over to Iraq so fast that her head will spin, and she'll pray for good old Aussie style army bastardisation the same as the rest of the Koopz's did


is it true you can stone a woman to death in the middle east if she is a harlot? do you have to share that with others or is that a private affair?

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did you help organise the wedding or did you leave it up to wifey?

wifey, sisters and mum sat down and layed smaqq talk and i just nodded.

well since marriage is a religious ceremony and i ain't orthodox religious i never want to be married

this came to a head in 2000 when i was forced to propose to the missus and i did it because i was forced.. not because i wanted to get married... she wanted the typical girly wedding and i didn't... 9 years of relationship down the toilet

anyway i'm very happy atm and have found a girl who wants the same as me and believes more fundamentally what i believe in - i have a feeling we will be together for along time yet

well since marriage is a religious ceremony and i ain't orthodox religious i never want to be married

my wedding was zero % religious

our celebrant actually dumped us the day before the wedding due to the lack of religion

god was not mentioned

then you aren't really married
you are living in sin and will burn in a fiery hell. your family and friends should disown you because you are in league with satan and a bad influence.

repent!

But satan has all the cool toys

Pfft marriage doesn't have to have anything to do with religion. I'm not religious at all which is why I won't be getting married in a church or having a priest run the ceremony

I was married back in November last year. Regretfully I didn't really have much to do with the planning of the day.

The major thing we forgot to do was pack an esky full of drinks and food for when we were taking photos. What a big mistake that was :(

Anyway ignore all the negative comments on here.

All the best.

BTW We already have 1 kid and a cat :P

TTA: you didn't just post on your wedding night did you?
haha

this forum used to be cool

The mailing list was cooler...

http://img88.imageshack.us/img88/150/image011kb0.jpg

i organised 0% of the wedding

Tell me how to do this please.

elvis has pretty much organised 0%

Just tell your missus that you just want to married to her and you would in a potato sack if you could and she will most likely laugh you off for being a hopeless romantic and organise the dy how she wants

I found the opposite. I was told that if I didn't get involved, it showed I didn't care. So the next thing I got involved in (the invitations), I was shot down by every female in a 20m radius everytime I suggested something. It was at this point I said... It's all yours!

Also, weddings are for the guests, the bride and the groom, in that order.

I think that sucks Mantra. Women who ask the man what he wants only to ignore his wishes because it isn't *** enough. Pitiful but way too common.

I know what elvis wants out of the day and that anything else he really isn't fussed over, and while I am no bridezilla, I am.

You are far more generous than I am, I would put 'the bride, the mother/fmil, guests, groom' in your typical wedding planning for list

hehehe

beer sure is heavy

I think you'll find on the day that you'll be so worried about the guests and that you'll forget that the day was supposed to be about you and your hubby. Well, that's what I've found with my and other peoples weddings I've been involved in.

I am hoping that al the stress will be done beforehand. I am stressing over what the guests will think, how comfy they will be, and all that, now. I am hoping come the day i don't give a s***.

hehe

I hope that's true! I think that's the way it should be, but often isn't. My sister in laws wedding I spent most of it running interference making sure she wasn't freaking out for most of it :)

I like to think that I wasn't 'one of those women' but after arranging a second dress (for very legit, non ego related reasons) I can't help but think I am taking it all way too seriously.
My bridesmaid is doing a good job of keeping me in check :)
I won't have a brother in law though looking out for me like your SIL though :)

haha, this is getting a bit dolly like for me :P

just like what happened with typo. except hopefully, in your case, she won't be a thai mail order bride who was previously a man.

You're just bitter that I'm good looking enough to get transexual mail order brides from Thailand. I'm sure that warmed up liver in a plastic bag is working out real well for you though. I'm sure it doesn't guilt trip you to drive it round on weekends.

So why the second dress? It is hard not too take things too seriously when you have everyone telling how it's one of the most important days of your life etc etc. Personally I think you've already had one of the most imporant days, ie the birth of your daughter. Also, you so are totally going dolly :P

The mailing list was cooler...

Do you want to hang out with grandpa?

900 emails before lunch ... the best bit was no one ever trimmed.

So why the second dress?

I need quick access to my boobies.... sadly for the wrong man in my life :P Although he will benefit from it

sif b married or have kids

Do you want to hang out with grandpa?

haha! So wrong...

900 emails before lunch ... the best bit was no one ever trimmed.

sif trim...

I need quick access to my boobies.... sadly for the wrong man in my life :P Although he will benefit from it

Oh ffs, too much information Kat :P Yeah yeah, I know I asked...

he likes drinking your milk? eww

just give the baby pura milk for one day during the wedding? LIFE IS HARD

I could explain the workings of breastfeeding to you Persay, but you wouldn't get it :)

Tollaz0r, haha no, he likes quick access to my boobies!

*giggles and walks off* Blokes :P

BREASTFEEDING AT A WEDDING!?!?!?!?

thats hawt;

actually, breastfeeding anytime is pretty hawt

I'm married, just not officially, i don't see any point in spending $20k+ on a wedding to prove this.

1. it doesn't cost 20 grand.
2. Its not just to prove it, its to provide legal protections to both parties eg. if you die.

If it is going to cost you $20k, you are with the wrong woman

out of 8 or so of my mates who are now married, I'd say 1 maybe 2 of then spent less then 10K

it's defo a 15K+ day, s*** most of the 'decent' places in Syd charge around 100 per head just for the food, add on the booze, car hire, photographer (some of those f***ers charge 5k for the day) and all the other various costs... it turns into a f***ing expensive day.

I don't really give a s*** for weddings, it's just a piece of paper in my mind, then again I am not in a 'serious' relationship, but I'd just f*** off to vegas and get married there or something, I can't see the point in spending an assload of cash on a wedding, if the two sets of parents are keen as to throw money away they can give me the cash and I'll use for the mortgage or any other relevant expenses I have at the time!

i actually turned a 5g proffit on our wedding

family paid for the whole thing, and we got given 5 grand in presents (requested cash, not presents) which i then proceeded to spend on booze and food on the honeymoon

Well, then there is that. If you parents are paying for it, then I guess you have no reason to cut back costs.

We are paying for it all ourselves so 'we' looked around and saved wherever we could. Most of it is being done by us and not a wedding co-coordinator or function centre.

HeardY - I don't think Brisbane's prices are on par with Sydney's just yet. Plus as said earlier. It can be as expensive or as cheap as you want it

oh, we still had a budget

just the budget was not to spend any of our cash

still, we had 100 people, booze and tons of nibblies and i think all up it was about 12 grand including petals dress and stuff

although, i could be wrong;

to whoever mentioned it earlier, an esky packed with beers is essential for having pre-beer beers while you are waiting around for photos and stuff;

Mines upto about $20k budgetted (excluding honeymoon), it isn't over the top or lavish as far as I'm concerned.. it's pretty easy to rack up the dollars when things photographers can hit $2k. We focused ours on spending the cash in the things that will make the memory last and are important to us (good photography, good decorations, nice invites, etc). We cut back in areas where we didn't really give a f*** what people thought or the cost was just ridiculous - perfect example is instead of paying an extra $10/head for dessert, we're feeding them the wedding cake.

Also we get married on the Sunday and fly out on Tuesday for the honeymoon.. so wtf is there to do on the Monday? We've been together over 6 years and living together for 5 years so rooting isn't exactly new territory. I guess I could spend another day/night in the hotel but that leaves us with little time to get home and packed to fly out just after lunch.

I can just see the Monday with us having breakky, catching up with guests that stayed over in the hotel, then heading home to clean the house, pack up the kit and then watch DVDs/play WoW on Monday night :)

So what did others do between the day after the wedding and the day of the honeymoon start?

So what did others do between the day after the wedding and the day of the honeymoon start?

We went back to work for a week heh :P

btw, married for 3.5 years now (damn! time flies :O ) and am very happy. No kids as yet.

i've been engaged now for 4 years or something and am not really in any rush to get married, too much of a hassle

i hope he agrees...

When you're Italian, and you have about 100 family members on 1 side of the family, it costs $20k.

Not to mention, all wogs have high expectations for weddings. Previously, my 2 older cousins that have been married were wed at the Marriott, and the Sheraton.

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Damn greasy wogs

Expensive weddings are incentive to only do it once.

my sis had the right idea. married at the alex. after the reception finishes you can go upstairs. awesome!!

The alex is more of a 21st venue. For yobos.

plug for my uncle's wedding video company: http://netproductions.com.au/content/homev2.asp

he does high class shiz so not for the budget wedding.

no idea hwat ours cost, but it was reaosnably pricey.

We had 125 people and it was at Brett's Wharf (ceremony & reception)

The only think I did as part of the organisation was choose the winelist and make spirits only available to people over 60, so my grandparents could all drink their whiskey.

the dress looked expensive, but no idea what it cost, I think the food was about $80pp and we just had an open bar tab - which from memory turned out cheaper than if we had chosen the pre packaged drinks option.

If it is going to cost you $20k, you are with the wrong woman

That's just for the ring.... newb :P

We spent about 15k including a honeymoon skiing in NZ.

Everyone remarked on what a solid wedding it was. We had ~80 guests and had way more food and booze than everyone could get through.

We only spent 600 on photos and its orobably my only regret. Not every photo was good enough to put in an album but we still ended up with a few hundred good shots by the time everyone sent us theirs as well.

IMO the only way to get married in this day and age when everyone expects everything about your wedding to be about them ( i.e. bossy family ) and the average wedding is $20k+ is to elope to vegas and get married by elvis with a dude in a bear outfit as the witness ( unless you can find a real bear! ). Then come home and chuck a massive party.

Pretty much what I plan on doing.*

*Just kidding. Although, when in Vegas...

Nonetheless, not married yet.

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bwahahaha

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hahaha, that is awesome Kat

damn wonderbreads, she got no butt.

great tits

hehe...

I kept watching that expecting the Chaser guys to pop up somewhere